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| http://firstthings.org/page/media/the-family-column/adult-children-adjusting-to-remarriage-of-parents, Free
?Ideas on dealing with a new step-family when an older parent remarries. |
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| Eighth Mountain Press, 2002, $14.95
http://www.amazon.com/Writing-Memoir-Truth-Second-Edit/dp/0933377509/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1274904760&sr=1-1
A practical guide through the writing process from idea to publication, addressing such technical problems as theme selection, voice, tone, form, plot, scene, and character development, as well as how to stimulate creative thinking and build necessary discipline. |
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| http://www.genealogy.com/95_carmack.html, Free
Carmack offers some very good pointers for preparing for and conducting family oral history interviews. |
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| http://gerontologist.oxfordjournals.org/cgi/content/abstract/49/4/525
The most prevalent theme among both nursing home residents and students was Interpersonal Relations. Differences between groups of respondents were especially evident for the theme of Education, which was given by over a half of the older persons and none of the students. |
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| http://www.eons.com/
Offers social networking for Baby Boomers |
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| http://familyoralhistory.us/news/C4, Free
This blog by Susan A. Kitchens that tells you about audio options for oral histories, and how to use them, among other topics. |
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| http://www.personalhistorians.org/find/, Free
Although you will have to pay for the services of a personal historian, use of the directory is free. |
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| Workman Publishing Co., 2009, $12.95
http://www.amazon.com/Oral-History-Workshop-Collect-Celebrate/dp/0761151974/ref=sr_1_10?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1274909192&sr=1-10#_
Hart and Lisa Samson offers 43 categories (and 73 pages!) of questions you can ask (or have someone ask you) in the construction of an oral history of your life. |
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| http://www.alegacytoremember.com/, $69.95
The Richlin Group will help you construct an ethical will or similar document and bind it in leather for you. |
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| http://livingcelebrations.com/, $1,500 to $90,000
This organization will both write and bind your personal history /memoir. |
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| Pew Research Center, August 27, 2010, Free
http://pewresearch.org/pubs/1711/older-adults-social-networking-facebook-twitter
Madden reports on the increasing use of Facebook, Twitter and similar social media by adults age 50 and up. |
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| http://www.ethicalwill.com/, Free
An unusually good free resource on the writing of personal memoirs. |
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| http://www.familyhistoryproducts.com/oral-history-interviewing.html, Free
Tips on oral history interviewing techniques. |
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| http://genealogy.about.com/cs/oralhistory/a/interview.htm, Free
Powell offers a reasonably comprehensive interview guide for conducting an oral history interview. |
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| Tarcher, 1998, $16.95
http://www.amazon.com/Your-Life-Story-Tristine-Rainer/dp/0874779227/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1274904232&sr=1-6
A hands-on guide to the craft of autobiographical writing, but also a self-help guide to finding peace and self-fulfillment. |
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| Writers Digest Books, 2008, $16.99
http://www.amazon.com/Writing-Life-Stories-Memories-Literature/dp/1582975272/ref=sr_1_14?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1274904410&sr=1-14
Roorbach will all help you make your life story interesting and stylish enough so people will actually enjoy reading it all the way through. |
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| University of Georgia Press, 2009, $19.95
http://www.amazon.com/Fearless-Confessions-Writers-Guide-Memoir/dp/082033166X/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1274904760&sr=1-6
A guidebook for people who want to take possession of their lives by putting their experiences down on paper--or in a Web site or e-book. |
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| Swallow Press, 1997, $14.95
http://www.amazon.com/Legacy-Step-Step-Writing-Personal/dp/080401003X/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1274904514&sr=1-3
Spence offers sample essays and quotations, but most of all poses memory-provoking questions that you can use to gather the content of your personal memoir. |
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| http://www.storytrust.com/, Varies
This organization will produce either hard-bound books or audio recordings containing your life story. |
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| http://www.oralhistory.org/technology/, Free
Good information on audio recording of oral histories (video portion was not complete, at last check). |
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| Trafford Publishing, 2006, $14.50
http://www.amazon.com/Bite-Size-Pieces-My-Past-digestible/dp/1412016800/ref=sr_1_36?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1278439813&sr=1-36
Vincent provides a simple format for you to capture your most important memories without committing to a Major Writing Project. |
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| AARP, January 2010, Free
http://assets.aarp.org/rgcenter/general/connecting_giving.pdf
The authors describe and provide data from a telephone survey on how people age 45 and up spend their time, what organizations they belong to, what civic activities they engage in, and ways they help others through giving and volun-teering. |
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| http://www.personalhistorian.com/, $29.95
Software to help you construct own personal history / memoir. |
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| http://www.pewinternet.org/Reports/2011/Social-Networking-Sites.aspx?src=prc-headline, Free
65% represents more than 50% of total U.S. adults, the first time ever this mark has been exceeded. Details on this and other related data is provided. |
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| http://psycnet.apa.org/index.cfm?fa=buy.optionToBuy&id=2009-13203-013&CFID=4680849&CFTOKEN=80919089
The authors show that older people are just as affected by interpersonal conflict as younger people, but are more likely to use strategies to avoid conflict. |
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| http://psychsocgerontology.oxfordjournals.org/cgi/reprint/64B/1/45, Free
Cheng's study suggests that efforts by the elderly to connect with younger generations is rewarding only to the extent that they perceive that the younger are people returning respect to them. |
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| Robert Wood Johnson Foundation, October 2009, Free
http://www.partnershipsforolderadults.org/content/public/news/CPFOAPublication091021.pdf
This report contains data and perspectives from the National Summit on Community Partnerships for Older Adults Program. |
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| http://www2.asanet.org/journals/asr/april08abs.html
Age increases the frequency of socializing with neighbors, religious participation, and volunteering. In addition, some later-life transitions, such as retirement and bereavement, may prompt greater connectedness. |
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| http://www.ingentaconnect.com/content/asoca/jhsb/2009/00000050/00000001/art00005
Cornwell and Waite examine the extent to which social disconnectedness and perceived isolation have distinct associations with physical and mental health among older adults. |
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| http://biomedgerontology.oxfordjournals.org/content/66A/4/467.abstract
James et al found that social activity is associated with a decreased risk of incident disability in activities of daily living, with better mobility, and with successful conduct of activities of daily living, among community-dwelling older adults. |
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| http://www.informaworld.com/smpp/content~content=a908218213~db=all~order=page
This study's results confirm that a higher level of social engagement in old age is associated with better cognitive function but the association varies across domains of social engagement. |
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| http://gerontologist.oxfordjournals.org/content/51/3/379.abstract
Respondents embedded in network types characterized by greater social capital tended to exhibit better well-being in terms of less loneliness, less anxiety, and greater happiness. |
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| http://ageing.oxfordjournals.org/cgi/content/abstract/39/3/319
The authors concluded that the answer appeared to be Yes for men, but not so much for women. |
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| http://ageing.oxfordjournals.org/content/40/5/607.abstract
These researchers find that in both men and women, low levels of social relationship connect with low mobility. |
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| http://jag.sagepub.com/cgi/content/abstract/28/4/461
Park finds that friendly relationshjips with staff, and mealtime relationships with other patients, are important factors in life satisfaction and avoiding depression. |
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| Prentice-Hall, 2004, $15.95
http://www.amazon.com/How-Say-Seniors-Closing-Communication/dp/0735203806/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1276177333&sr=1-5
Solie helps us understand how things look to our elders, and how we can use this understanding to get through to them more effectively. |
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| Ten Speed Press, 1989, Out of print
http://www.amazon.com/Recording-Family-History-William-Fletcher/dp/0898153247/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1274909192&sr=1-4
Fletcher is a good source for questions and topics to ask about when doing an oral history, and includes ideas for different ethnicities, though technologically it is well out of date. |
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| http://psychsocgerontology.oxfordjournals.org/content/65B/5/599.abstract
Litvin finds that the social network phenomenon is contextually bound: the social networks of older people should be seen within their unique regional milieu and in relation to the values and social norms that prevail in different sets of societies. |
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| Augsburg Fortress Publishers, 2004, $14.99
http://www.amazon.com/Company-You-Keep-Transforming-Friendship/dp/080665158X/ref=sr_1_7?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1276624403&sr=1-7
Bentall emphasizes the benefits of, and makes useful suggestions for initiating, long-term, nurturing friendships. |
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| Sorin Books, 2006, $17.95
http://www.amazon.com/Fabric-Friendship-Celebrating-Mending-Relationships/dp/1893732959/ref=pd_sim_b_3
Joy explores the emotional hurdles that women face in their relationships. |
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| Wiley, 2007, $14.95
http://www.amazon.com/Mean-Girls-Grown-Afraid-Bees/dp/0470168757/ref=pd_sim_b_1
Dellasega discusses female relationships at different ages, and in various settings, with some extra emphasis on the workplace. |
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| http://psycnet.apa.org/journals/amp/64/8/644/
Eagly finds that women and men are about equally interested in “pro-social” behaviors that benefit the community, but they do it in different ways: women in ways that are more communal and relational, and men in ways that are more agentic and collectively oriented as well as strength intensive. |
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| Overlook TP, 2009, $15.95
http://www.amazon.com/Best-Friends-Forever-Surviving-Breakup/dp/1590200403/ref=pd_sim_b_1
Levine writes about how to handle it when a women’s friendship finally reaches the breaking point. |
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| National Bureau of Economic Research, October 2010, $5.00
http://www.nber.org/papers/w16415
The authors provide evidence based on data from 136 countries that the reward experienced from helping others may be deeply ingrained in human nature, emerging in diverse cultural and economic contexts. |
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| http://www.palgrave-jour-nals.com/sth/journal/v8/n1/abs/sth200919a.html
Abbott notes that participation in groups and associations is regarded a key components of social capital. Given evidence that levels of social capital correlate with levels of health, it is reasonable to assume that participation levels are similarly associated. There is mixed evidence for this. |
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| http://www.essortment.com/health-care-assiting-homebound-37991.html, Free
A useful article if you are not the actual caregiver, but know someone who is homebound, and you want to be helpful |
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| The authors find that “individualists” do not know themselves as well as “collectivists” do, and do not predict as well how they will react in certain social/financial situations. |
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| New Horizon Press, 2001, $14.95
http://www.amazon.com/Mothers---Law-Daughters--Rivalry-Reconciliation/dp/0882822063/ref=sr_1_5?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1280329289&sr=1-5
Barash deals with both good and bad relationships between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law, and discusses many of the big issues that can come between them (or, sometimes, help unite them); it does not offer any easy answers, but the necessary insights are there. |
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| McGraw-Hill, 2002, $16.95
http://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Vampires-Dealing-People-Drain/dp/0071381678/ref=pd_sim_b_18
Bernstein's prescriptions for dealing with friends who are anti-social, histrionic, narcissistic, obsessive-compulsive or paranoid. |
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| Better Business Bureau, Donation required
http://www.bbb.org/us/wise-giving-guide/
This guide, published quarterly by the Better Business Bureau, offers updates to their latest charity evaluations, and also discusses other topics of interest to donors. The first issue is free. |
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| http://www.charitynavigator.org/, Free
Evaluates the financial health of over 5,500 of the country’s largest charities, including the ratio of income that actually goes into charitable programs, and includes comments pro and con from other site visitors. |
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| http://www.ec-online.net/knowledge/articles/communication.html, Free
Provides a variety of tips if you are dealing with someone who has trouble with hearing, seeing, or speaking, or who has Alzheimer’s or other forms of dementia. |
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| http://www.helium.com/channels/646-Friendship-Drama-Issues, Free
Links to dozens of articles concerning friendship issues - wide-ranging, but not well organized. |
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| University of Chicago Press, 2006, $45.00
http://www.amazon.com/Strategic-Giving-Art-Science-Philanthropy/dp/0226266265/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1274883501&sr=1-4
Frumkin helps you think through the rationale and the effects of larger-scale giving, and helps you figure out the best way to achieve your philanthropic aims. |
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| St. Martin's / Griffin, 2005, $18.99
http://www.amazon.com/Making-Adult-Stepfamilies-Work-Strategies/dp/0312342713
Gabe and Lipman-Blumen deal with the many issues that can arise when we acquire a new step-family. |
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| https://www.dmachoice.org/dma/member/home.action;jsessionid=A0887A39AB6F9FA6FC1BCCDF62CD026A.tomcat2, Free
This site can help you get your name off of mailing lists you don’t want to be on, if you find you are receiving too many solicitations from charities. |
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| http://ag.ca.gov/charities/charit_giving.php, Free
This site gives useful tips about how not to be scammed by phony or dubious charitable appeals. |
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| http://www.bbb.org/us/Government-Charities/, Free
Links to federal and state agencies that regulate public charities, and that can be sources of information you can use before you donate or volunteer. |
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| http://www2.guidestar.org/, Free (registration required)
Provides information about charities, including copies of their IRS filings (though you will have to pay for the copies). |
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| http://www.wikihow.com/Category:Handling-Friendship-Problems, Free
Links to 150+ articles on friendship issues, listed alphabetically. |
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| http://www.wikihow.com/Find-an-Old-Friend, Free
10 steps you can take to try to find old friends you want to reconnect with. |
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| http://www.wikihow.com/Live-Without-Friends, Free
Addresses ways to live without friends but in a constructive fashion – one that will be as healthy as possible for you, and that will not alienate other people. |
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| Routledge, 2000, $34.95
http://www.amazon.com/Other-Esteem-Multicultural-Accelerated-Development/dp/1560328762/ref=sr_1_40?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1275682574&sr=1-40
Hwang takes a cultural, societal look at the concept of respect, but brings it home to us individually by contrasting the beauty of “other-esteem” to the often over-rated virtue of “self-esteem”. |
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| https://www.justgive.org/, Free
Allows you to donate to charities online. |
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| Basic Books, 2000, $17.50
http://www.amazon.com/Respect-Exploration-Sara-Lawrence-Lightfoot/dp/0738203181/ref=sr_1_18?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1275681827&sr=1-18
Lawrence-Lightfoot provides one of the few books on the subject of Respect written not just for children or teens. Her opening chapter discusses intelligently the key issues, and the other chapters illustrate her concepts with rather detailed real-life stories. |
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| Houghton Mifflin, 2008, $10.95
http://www.amazon.com/135-Tips-Email-Instant-Messages/dp/0618942580/ref=sr_1_35?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1278355066&sr=1-35
Lindsell-Roberts offers lots of useful pointers for people starting out, or needing a refresher, in effective online communication. |
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| Augsburg Books, 2004, $8.99
http://www.amazon.com/Friendship-Factor-Closer-People-Care/dp/0806635711/ref=pd_sim_b_2
McGinnis offers many ideas (and examples) of how to keep a friendship close – but not too close – and how to deal with the inevitable rough spots. |
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| http://www1.networkforgood.org/, Free
Allows you to donate to charities online. |
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| http://www.bbb.org/us/Philanthropic-Publications/, Free
If you are interested in philanthropy, this site offers a list of publications you can receive to learn more and to stay on top of the latest developments. |
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| http://psycnet.apa.org/journals/psp/100/1/
Tbhe authors observe that people tend to empathize less with social pain (ostracism, shame, etc.) than with physical pain, unless they themselves have suffered from social pain. |
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| http://seniorliving.about.com/od/lifetransitionsaging/a/longevity.htm, Free
O'Brien reports that according to one recent study, having good friendships appears to be even more conducive to health and longevity than having good family relationships. |
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| NOLO, 2009, $24.99
http://www.amazon.com/Sharing-Solution-Money-Simplify-Community/dp/1413310214/ref=sr_1_11?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1276624764&sr=1-11
Orsi and Doskow discuss the benefits and how-to’s of sharing anything from rides to housing. |
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| Seven Word Press, 2009, $27.95
http://www.amazon.com/SMART-GENEROSITY-Everything-Charity-Philanthropy/dp/098217280X/ref=pd_sim_b_1
Rafferty explains how to be educated about where your donations are going, and how to make sure they go where you want them to. |
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| http://thinkexist.com/quotations/respect/, Free
Random quotations on the subject of Respect |
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| http://eqi.org/respect.htm, Free
This site offers insights about what respect is, how it is shown, and how it is earned. |
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| http://plato.stanford.edu/entries/respect/, Free
This article delves into the history of the key interpersonal concept of “respect,” and many of the ideas and theories that surround it. |
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| http://www.helium.com/items/324826-starting-and-nurturing-a-healthy-friendship, Free
A collection of short articles on keeping friendships thriving, offering helpful observations and specific suggestions. |
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| http://www.ingentaconnect.com/content/asoca/jhsb/2009/00000050/00000001/art00006
Ross and Mirowsky find that perceived neighborhood disorder is associated with high levels of anxiety, anger, and depression, with personal victimization mediating only about 10 percent of the association. |
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| Bellewether, Ltd., 2008, $9.99
http://www.amazon.com/Respect-Others-Golden-Key-Success/dp/1892490277/ref=sr_1_28?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1275682118&sr=1-28
Saunders approaches respect from a self-help perspective – maybe not as unselfishly as everyone might like, but still with useful insights. |
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| Parkhurst Brothers Publishers, 2010, $15.95
http://www.amazon.com/Sheeps-Clothing-Understanding-Dealing-Manipulative/dp/1935166301/ref=pd_sim_b_2
Simon teaches the mechanics of popular tactics used by manipulators and how you can identify and thwart their tactics so you can control the outcome. |
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| Pew Research Center, November 2009, Free
http://pewresearch.org/pubs/1398/internet-mobile-phones-impact-american-social-networks
This survey finds that Americans are not as isolated as has been previously reported. People's use of the mobile phone and the internet is associated with larger and more diverse discussion networks. |
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| http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/126079/tips_on_nurturing_your_friendships.html?cat=41, Free
A general introduction to this topic, including about two dozen specific suggestions. |
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| http://www.universalgiving.org/jsp/donate/index.do, Free
This site allows you to donate to international charities online. |
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| Guilford Press, 1997, $35.00
http://www.amazon.com/Were-Just-Good-Friends-Relationships/dp/1572301872/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1276623824&sr=1-5
A somewhat scholarly but nonetheless useful look at non-romantic male/female friendships. |
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| http://money.howstuffworks.com/economics/volunteer/starting-a-charity/charitable-trust.htm, Free
Outlines the essentials of how trusts can be used to reduce your taxes, benefit causes you believe in, and, depending on your needs and how the trust is drawn up, also provide for your or your family’s use of property until that need has passed. |
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| http://www.bbb.org/us/charity/, Free
Rates charities, and lets you review any complaints that have been filed against them. |
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| Hannacroix Creek Books, 1999, $22.95
http://www.amazon.com/Friendshifts-Power-Friendship-Shapes-Lives/dp/1889262293/ref=pd_sim_b_5
Yager discusses the importance of friendship and, drawing on her own research, suggests that shared values are ultimately more important than shared interests in keeping friendships alive as we change and our friends change over the course of a lifetime. |
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| Fireside, 2002, $14.00
http://www.amazon.com/When-Friendship-Hurts-Friends-Abandon/dp/0743211456/ref=pd_sim_b_1
Yager identifies a variety of coping techniques, and also helps you identify when a friendship is beyond saving. |
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| http://www.ivillage.com/toxic-friends-and-how-you-can-deal-them/6-a-126431, Free
A free excerpt from Yager's book on toxic friendships. |
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| http://messenger.yahoo.com/, Fre
A direct link to the granddaddy of internet chat and messenger services. |
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| Pew Research Center, December 16, 2010, Free
http://pewresearch.org/pubs/1831/generations-online-2010
Zickuhr reports that while online social networking steadily declines in popularity by age, it continues to expand rapidly, especially in the older groups. For in-stance, 34% of “Older Boomers,” age 55 to 64, are now connected on such sites, compared to only 11% nineteen months earlier. |